The Feminine Out Of Balance
What does it mean to be a female who is out of balance with their feminine essence?
This is not something that just affects females and I will discuss the topic of the male out of balance in my next blog.
To me a female becomes out of balance when she loses touch with what the essence of being a true natural woman is.
I totally understand this, as a child and teenager I turned off my feminine light because of my childhood traumas. I did not want to be noticed, to be attractive or to shine, in fact I adopted the masculine essence.
Over the past 10 years I have practised and learnt more about what it means to be a female in balance.
To me a female out of balance can be at either ends of the polarity. They will be either too needy or too independent.
A needy woman will be insecure. She does not feel safe and requires constant attention, support and love. They will seek approval and can show attention seeking behaviours such as not wanting her man to do his thing like hanging out with his friends or spending times away from her. She can also be clingy and suffocating and what a man wants more than anything is to feel his freedom.
An overly independent woman will refuse help and support. She might seek freedom and not want to rely on her partners and friends as she likes to go it alone. She can be disconnected and appear cold hearted, though this is just her protection mechanism. The negatives of being an overly independent woman is that she will never allow herself to experience the feeling of true surrender and opening up when she is closed and ‘doing it alone.’
In regards to a woman nagging, this can come from either end of the poles and in some ways men could find it a reassuring thing, in moderation of course. For it is the role of the woman to guide the man and ensure that he is on track. If a woman stops nagging then she could be ‘over it’ or even planning her escape.
So a woman in balance is choosing to be aware of her feminine essence. This could be likened to an inner light within her. She is aware of the presence of the light and she knows how to open and radiate it as she follows her life path.
A woman in balance is in tune with her openness. We only have to look at the male anatomy which is pointing out and the female which opens inwards. So part of the balanced feminine essence is her opening herself to her friends, family and lovers, after all women want to be witnessed and seen.
When she is out of balance she will feel the following
- Empty – She will have to fill her void with creative expression and play
- Disconnected from her inner beauty – Here she might want to compensate with lots of makeup and or cosmetic surgery. She will benefit for releasing self-loathing and to connect with her inner value and beauty.
- Obsessed with aging – Again this is her unable to value herself and the changes that occur for us all. Here we can accept and value the wise crone.
- Becomes the Seducer – She easily falls in love and allows herself to get lost in her romantic notions. Aim to acknowledge your own space and direction.
- Co-dependency – Here she is not acknowledging her own true power and is coming from a wounded or even victim state. She can seek sex as connection when what she really wants is presence and heart connection.
- Being competitive – This is a masculine trait.
So when a woman becomes balanced she knows she does not have to please others, only herself. She connects to her inner beauty and values her body, spirit and mind as well as respecting her vitality.
A balanced woman embraces the changes of life and she celebrates the grey hair and the wrinkles. She can be radiant and beautiful at any stage of her life.
She loves and laughs from the heart. As she radiates she is magnetic, open and receptive to life’s mysteries. She can draw what she needs to her, no longer having to chase after it.
She is open with her sexuality and her gift of presence and touch. She has enough in her life to sustain her and refrain from entanglement.
A balanced woman is a conscious co-creator. She is connected to the divine mother and she is intuitively guided to her unique role in life bringing with it connection, balance, love and healing.
She is a natural woman who lives with flow, ecstasy, empowerment, effortless magnetism, attractiveness, receptive and sensual. She does not need to project a powerful persona to attract the respect and attention she wants. She knows who she is; want she needs and how to obtain it. She is enough.
She is lit up from within, confident in herself, and grounded.
It feels good to be her and it feels good to be around her.
Now who would like more of that?
If you would like to step into the realm of being balanced and connected, contact me today to find out how.
Until next time,
Seeing you in happiness and health