Talk to me about Love
For love to work two people need to work at it together, they need to work consistently and frequently.
Love can be forever, as long as you are prepared to work at it together and forever. Being in love is a decision. Our love needs to be changed as our needs change, we might start a family, we might change our jobs etc, however as our lives change the love decision changes accordingly.
Love is caring for the spiritual well being of another person, it might be allowing your partner the space to debrief, it might be taking on a new responsibility, it might be seeking compromises, and it might be adjusting to change.
When you love someone unconditionally you want the best for your loved one. We might take a knife from a young child because you love them and do not want a two year old to be hurt. This is an act of love. Be mindful though that you always need to be you, that the other person is free to accept or reject your gift of love and this is not always an easy thing to acknowledge.
Love empowers others to love themselves.
Love is not a possession, it is a decision and a gift.
Love frees us, it does not own us, and people do not come into the world to live up to your expectations.
Other people are free to have their own thoughts and to make their own decisions and unconditional love can empower them to do so. What is more important? That you are pleased with yourself, or that others are pleased with you. When choosing self love you then turn your love to life. When you do not choose love then you will be choosing something else, this is where underlying problems can be found.
Say Yes to Love, Say Yes to Life.
Find out what is good about yourself, focus on this every day and every day will start to get better and better. Our lives are so complex in this day and age, start to simplify by saying no to self hatred, self hatred is like a cancer and it can spread, it will destroy relationships and foremost the loving.
First Act of Love
The first act of love is sharing your feelings with each other. Communicating is a form of intimacy, when we share our love, we share intimacy.
This is one of the most powerful means of communication. When we communicate in this way, we can share things or actions, reactions and events that are important to us. One thing that we can share is our feelings and one of the most valuable and intimate means of communication between any people is the sharing of your feelings. When we share our feelings with one another we are getting to know what the other person is, what they feel. This is a very intimate way of knowing who they are.
When we share our feelings with somebody we have a greater understanding of what upsets them, what delights them, what makes them happy and what makes them sad. They are understanding who they are, what things make them happy and what things make them sad. We are understanding what type of person they are and what their needs are, this is very important to communication.
We all have feelings so we all react in a different way. Sometimes sharing your feelings is harder for men to do as our society does not encourage this and we are told to toughen up and stop being a cry baby. Girls are often encouraged to feel fear and to not share their anger. Either way as we learn to share our feelings in a healthy non-projecting way we are learning to love ourselves more.
Learn to see the difference between what you are feeling, what you are doing and what you are thinking. The more we can of share of these thoughts, actions and feelings with another, the more we are sharing our intimacy with them, the more we are communicating with them at a deeper level.
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Enjoy your day and choose love today.